The Condom Debate

So I was out with some friends last night and somehow we got onto the topic that we all keep condoms handy just in case. Except one. She was saying how she'd never do anything so 'stupid' as to sleep with someone she doesn't know - well, it wouldn't necessarily be someone she doesn't know, at some point she could get really horny and have some kinky public toilet sex with her boyfriend; but that's beside the point - and the reason she gave for this is because she has 'morals'.

Now, it's entirely her choice who she sleeps with and when. However, what I don't agree with is her reasoning. By phrasing it the way she has, she has made it seem as if she is better than someone who chooses to sleep around. And someone who chooses to sleep with someone they don't know is no better or worse than anyone else. Someone who chooses to sleep with five different guys in a night is no better or worse than anyone else. Someone who chooses not to have sex at all in their lifetime is no better or worse than anyone else.

Doing what you want with your body is not something that constitutes 'morals'. Morals are essentially a societal fiction because they are never universal. The only thing that I would say makes sleeping around an issue is if the participants are not responsible with it - if the woman does not have contraception, if they don't use a condom etc. This is the only thing that matters, I would say. Because your body is yours and it isn't for anyone else to judge what you do with it. I would just say to look after it.

And surely it's better to carry a condom and not need it than need it and not carry it? Surely that would be the sensible thing?